We live in a society where technology has become part of almost every aspect of everyday life. For today's children and teenagers, screens are a natural part of their world: they use them to learn, to communicate and to have fun. However, we adults are not always ready to guide them through that process.
As a child and adolescent psychologist, one of the concerns I hear most often in my practice is: “I don't know how much screen time is too much… or how to manage it without arguments.”
Too much screen time and its emotional impact
More and more children are showing emotional and learning difficulties linked to the use of screens. Specifically, problems with attention and concentration, sleep disturbances, irritability, low tolerance for frustration and self-esteem issues.
This is not about demonising screens, but about helping children develop a healthy relationship with them. But… how do we achieve that?
“It's not about banning, but about guiding.”
Parents often feel there are only two options: allow or forbid. However, there is a middle ground. Here are a few tips for finding the balance:
- Set clear, consistent boundaries. It is not just about setting a maximum amount of time, but about explaining why it is important to balance its use.
- Make time for screen-free moments a priority. Meals, the time before bed or family games should be spaces for real connection.
- Lead by example. Children learn more from what they see than from what they are told. If we ourselves are constantly connected, they will find it hard to switch off.
- Choose quality content. Keeping an eye on what they consume and talking about it fosters critical thinking and digital safety.
- Encourage other forms of leisure. Sport, reading, crafts or simply being bored are also part of healthy development.
In short
Screens are not the enemy, but using them without limits or guidance can be. Children need adults who teach them to switch off so they can truly connect: with their bodies, with their emotions, with others and with the real world.
Teaching digital balance is a long-term task, but also an opportunity to strengthen the family bond and promote healthier, more mindful and happier development.
